Takeaways from an unusual year, in love and beyond.

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As we wrap up the craziest year of our lives, we’re all likely reflecting back in some way. This year has changed our lives and the structures around it upside down. But at the very end of it, I’ve been left wondering about the transformations this year may have brought to our outlook on love.

We’ve possibly learned to embrace relationships more this year. But what little things might have been magnified that we were previously oblivious to? How might the abundance of space and time redefine how we love?

In this intimacy with self, we find the answers we…


Lessons from living in an illusion, painted by his false promises.

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I wondered often if he was really over his break-up.

He kept assuring me that he was.

Only to tell me a few months later that he “wasn’t ready”.

It was then that I realized that I was living in an illusion, painted by his false promises. I was led on by his empty words and I felt like an idiot for it.

It was confusing to find myself in an unfulfilling relationship with a seemingly great partner who just couldn’t progress things between us. …


Timelines in love are unnatural

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Have you ever wondered how many of us are not with partners right for us because we’re keeping ourselves unavailable by being with the wrong ones?

We live in a culture where love is often seen as a goal to attain, rather than a natural bond that develops organically between two people. As a result:

We rush love because we have set timelines for ourselves.

We rush love because we’re reaching a ‘certain age’.

We rush love because society tells us we should.

Sometimes we rush love because our ego wants to be in love. And while a fraction of…


Certain mindset changes deeply transformed the quality of my relationships.

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After getting out of a long-term serious relationship, I just wanted to explore my options. This led to countless first dates, some wonderful connections, and a handful of shorter relationships here and there. But amidst the excitement and the heartbreaks, I learned a lot.

You can be the most amazing, beautiful and accomplished person in the world, but when it comes to love, it’s all about your mindset.

Certain mindset changes deeply transformed the quality of my relationships and as I find myself in my healthiest and most compatible relationship to date, I thought I’d share to help someone else…

Elenor Ray

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